So just what is emotional intelligence? With the risk of oversimplifying, emotional intelligence is the dimension of intelligence responsible for our ability to manage ourselves and our relationships with others.
Included are skills that drive our internal world as well as our response to the external world.
When it comes to the mind, the average person has over 40,000 thoughts a day. However, many of our thoughts are not positively serving us. Unfortunately, many of our thoughts are toxic, and as a result, we have recurring behaviors that lead to negative thought-patterns that generate negative emotions.
Here are five components of emotional intelligence. They include:
- A well-honed timing for emotional expression and emotional control
- Empathy for others
- Social expertise that allows us to develop strong working relationships
- Personal influence that helps us advance our purpose with others;
- Integrity that aligns us with our life purpose.
How do we find a solution?
For me, fear and anxiety have held me back too long. And these types of emotions tend to leave people feeling crippled, powerless, and hopeless. But, then I realized these emotions came from a place of my past that I needed to revisit to move past the hurdle that kept me from moving forward; I needed to get to the root of what was triggering those emotions in the first place. In addition, many other situations and challenges in our lives are not meant to paralyze us but to create an awareness of how devastating events can negatively impact and shape how we see ourselves, especially when we don’t consider nor recognize the potential God put inside of us to keep us moving forward instead of backward.
So, for me to learn how to take action I had to discover how to do the following:
Get out of the comfort zone
- Identify triggers
- Manage one’s own feelings
- Respond to others in appropriate ways
- Understand the needs and feelings of oneself and other people
- Check your heart and its feelings everyday
- Don’t make decisions when in a bad or good mood
- Practice directing my mind to think positive thoughts
- Learn/Recognize the way my mind is thinking
- Learn that my thoughts are creating my actions, feelings, and results
- Meditate to develop self-awareness of what’s triggering the thoughts that lead me to unhealthy habits, ones that cause continuing patterns
So, I’ve created this course “transforming Emotions to Emotionally Intelligence” which is crucial for healthy living, business and success. Here’s what you’ll discover inside this course
What is Emotional Intelligence?
Who am I as a manager? Tuning into your senses, getting in touch with your feelings and knowing your goals
The dynamics of emotions, the worry buster, living with anxieties, 5-step freeze-frame technique
The essential elements, positive self-talk, visualization, creating an EI environment
Am I Assertive?
Assertiveness is the ability to express your wishes and beliefs in a positive way. Too little assertiveness can make you a doormat. Too much, and we can be bossy and aggressive.
Emotional self-awareness is the ability to recognize one’s feelings.
Get A Grip on Anger
Being assertive doesn’t mean getting your way; it means that you can express your wishes and beliefs in a positive non-destructive way. Brainstorm some ways that are used to deal with anger.
Defining a relationship, types of relationship, why do we get together? Why do relationships fail? What makes an effective relationship? 6 steps to building effective relationships, tips for building exceptional relationships with colleagues
What does this mean? What do I need to know and be able to do? What is involved?
Assessing & developing your emotional intelligence
How do you shape up? The Boston EIQ self-assessment questionnaire, raising your EI, ten habits of emotionally intelligent people
Developing an emotionally intelligent organisation
Using EI as a change management strategy, 4 steps to organisational EI, example EI development programm
Understanding emotional competence will help you know yourself and learn ways to fine-tune your relationship skills.